'For The Love Of Men' By Liz Plank Shows How Toxic Masculinity Hurts Us All
I was 19 the first time a man pressured me to have sex with him.
Eleven years ago, in a dorm room crowded with unopened textbooks and unwashed clothing, my ex-boyfriend begged to do what he wanted to me, even though it hurt me. I relented, worn down by his prodding, by my past experiences with harassment and assault, and by deep-rooted self-confidence issues. I did not recognize at the time that what happened to me constituted sexual assault, or that this experience would color every interaction I had with men thereafter, several of whom would attempt to coerce me, too. All I knew was that, even after I graduated and met the man who would become my husband, I didn’t trust men. Any of them. Including my husband.
But Liz Plank’s debut nonfiction book, For the Love of Men: A New Vision for Masculinity, contradicted everything I thought I knew about men.